Dating and having herpes
Can I date if I have herpes?
Dating with herpes can be a challenging experience. While the virus is very common ( about two thirds of all adults have HSV-1, and 11 percent to 20 percent HSV-2 ), finding out that you have herpes can have a significant effect on your self-esteem and interest in meeting new people.
Can you get herpes from your partner if they have herpes?
If your partner has cold sores and performs oral sex, or performs oral sex when you have genital herpes sores, the virus can spread. People often contract herpes this way, especially if they don’t know how the virus is transmitted. You can also contract herpes through other skin-to-skin contact. I got it when my partner had a cold sore.
How do I tell my partner that I have herpes?
Alexandra Harbushka, founder of Life With Herpes and spokesperson for Meet People With Herpes, says a great way to lead with the topic is talking about both parties’ sexual health, and insisting that you both get tested. When you tell your partners, Harbushka says you need to create the conversation around their needs.
Can herpes Change Your Sex Life?
You’ll have to have the conversation with every new partner, for one. You also can’t predict or control outbreaks, though medication can help. But herpes doesn’t change you. It doesn’t mean you’ve had sex unwisely. It also doesn’t mean your sex life is over.